Afraid to Succeed?

Sounds crazy, doesn't it?

Yet the fear of success in business holds us back more than we realize.

Thoughts like:

  • What if I build it and I hate what I've built?
  • What if my business starts to take on a life of its own and starts run me?
  • What if success requires more than I can, or want to give?
  • What if others judge my success?

So many thoughts. So much judgment. So much fear.

No wonder we stay stuck.

Success takes work, and if there is no guarantee it will bring happiness, well, why bother.

And yet our business calls to us.

Somewhere deep inside we know the truth.

  • That our business will be aligned with our values.
  • That we get to make the rules and build our business, our way.
  • That we have what it takes.
  • That we want this!

So if we know this, why all the fears?

Safety. Our body, and especially our mind, is trying to keep us safe.

We know our present. We know our past. But our future? If it's to be different, then it's in completely unchartered territory.

That's scary!

So what are we to do? Lean into possibility. Say what?!?

Just for a moment consider: 

  • What if you don't have to have it all figured out right now.
  • What if you could trust that all you needed to focus on is where you are going and the right next step.
  • What if, just maybe, you do have what it takes.

Because the truth is, you don't have to have it all figured out.

In fact, it is best you don't. Some of the best business opportunities happen when we are not trying to micromanage the journey.

So how do you succeed when these very real fears keep trying to hold you back?

For me, the answer has always been to get support from a coach. I hired my first business coach in 2008. I remember sitting at a Mom Café where moms go to chat with other adults while their kids play.

I got to speaking with another mom. I don't recall what she did or how we got on to the topic exactly but I'll never forget something she said to me: "If you want to make a real go of this business vs try and flounder you need to chat with my Business Coach"

I took down the name of her coach and on a whim gave her a call. Now I had never worked with a coach. Prior to this, I had been a University student and then an Intel employee. Never had I worked with or even considered working with a Business Coach.

Yet within 5 minutes of speaking with her I knew. Hiring a coach would be the difference between trying and probably failing vs trying and having a real shot at creating something.

11+ Years later a coach is still one of the best gifts I ever gave myself and my business.

She and the countless coaches and mentors I have worked with over the years are the secret to my success. They've challenged me when I've wanted to play small, supported me when I had been decisions to work through, and modeled for me what growth looked like.

Business, as you've probably already discovered, is the longest and deepest self-discovery journey you will go on.

Each and every insecurity will show it's head. I promise. But here is the thing. You don't have to do it alone either. It's a lot less scary and a heck of a lot more fun with someone in your corner.

If you've never considered hiring a coach I invite you to take a leap of faith and reach out. You might just find that it's the best gift you've ever given yourself.



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